When divorce is like ✂️ death by a thousand cuts
We are familiar with divorce’s Big Moments of Pain - fights, moving out, seeing your ex arm-in-arm with their new partner.
Honestly, though, what’s so draining is the small everyday things that add up. The “death by a thousand cuts.”
Tell me if any of these resonate.
Removing your ex’s name from your checking account.
Bumping into an acquaintance in the grocery store and having to tell them about your divorce.
Finding that beautiful stoneware bowl you got as a wedding gift.
Hearing “your song” on the sound system at Target.
Still seeing your married name on the electricity bill.
I’d be going about my day, and one of those little things would happen and I would lose it. Right there in the yogurt aisle at the grocery store. And the bra section of Target.
And don’t get me started on Facebook Memories. 😭
And yet it’s not the sum total of your experiences. Other things happen simultaneously, like:
Hearing kind words from someone you thought was only friends with your ex.
Realizing you can watch any TV show you want tonight.
Discovering you can (paint, sew, sing, garden) do interesting things.
Having quality 1:1 time with your child. And then having quality alone time.
Holding the painful with the hopeful is tough, but so important. Helping re-frame divorce and your next steps is an important part of my courses.
I invite you along.
Warmly,
Sarah 🖖
Image: Wound Man from Hans von Gersdorff's Feldtbuch der Wundartzney (Strasburg, 1519).